Glibby Lil’Red: The Free Venice Beachhead’s Feminist Advice
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Dear
Glibby,
I am in need of advice.
I have been seeing someone that is young
enough to be my daughter or son. We have a lot of fun together and it is like I
have regained a bit of my lost youth. We go on dates, which is refreshing in
itself, but these dates have been young dates – like rowing by little boat
around in the canals, going to the arcades on Santa Monica Pier, night hiking in
Malibu and then doing IT on a mountain in the moonlight. Oh, the you know is
incredible. I especially like their strong, large, football player physic. It is
all very exciting, but the problem is that our relationship is “just for
the moment” and, really, we are both looking for a very different kind of
long-term relationship. But we have so much fun together and the you know is
very hard to say no to. Should I just go with the flow and be happy to have such
a great time for now or should I be making more room so I can set my sights on
the long-term relationship I yearn for. I am not getting any
younger.
Sincerely,
In-Need-Of-A-Vice
Dear
In-Need-Of-A-Vice,
Honestly dear, my
first reaction is to say, “Good for you!” Then after a little more
reflection, I think what I’m reading here is that you are considering
phasing this relationship out of your life. I mean, it is up to you, honey, if
you just want to have fun with it for a while – fine. But what I’m
guessing is that this person could be looking for the kind of long-term
relationship that involves having children and meeting in-laws. You on the other
hand, may be past wanting that in a long-term relationship due to your age.
Anyway, I know I would be uncomfortable meeting my much, much younger
lover’s mother or father. The more time you spend together, the higher the
chances of becoming attached and ultimately hurt by the mere fact that this
person has no intention of making a long-term relationship with you. I know how
easy it is to get hooked on the you know, but may I suggest that you think about
finding alternative resources for that outlet (possibly even a solo remedy). It
might help relieve your withdrawal symptoms. And as far as you reclaiming your
lost youth, well, sounds to me like you never really lost IT in the first place,
dear.
Peace and
Love,
Glibby
Posted: Fri - November 1, 2002 at 06:45 PM